I spend my days helping other people's kids understand their own nervous systems. I can talk for an hour about co-regulation, about window of tolerance, about why a meltdown at 5pm is not a discipline problem but a depleted-battery problem. And then I pick up my own kid from a long day at school and by the time we're five minutes into the car ride home, I am the one who is dysregulated. Or when I know my husband is picking our son up, I try to soak in the silent car ride home